Sometimes you get to a place in your life where you have to let go of something or someone. Maybe it’s a person you thought you loved or thought loved you, a family member, or a friend. Or perhaps, an old habit, belief, or way of thinking is the thing you need to release.
You name it, most things in life have an expiration date and we need to learn how to let go.
When you can’t let go…
Letting go is never easy. Allowing a season to end is one of the hardest parts of being human. It's hard to change, it's hard to let go, it's hard to become someone else, which is what letting go requires.
As much as we want to hurry up and get it over with, letting go is a long, slow process. It can take weeks, months, and even years to fully let something or someone go.
It is in these times of waiting and processing that we feel the most pain, confusion, and heartbreak. We feel weighed down and unable to see our next steps.
If you’re trying to release something or someone that’s holding you back and keeping you from living the life you're meant to be living right now, but feel A LOT of intense emotions, it’s totally normal.
There’s nothing wrong with you and it’s not your fault. When you’re in between holding on and needing to let go, it’s hard.
By the time you need to let something go you’re attached and more than likely have years with this person or way of being. You’ve built memories, navigated life in a certain way, and grown with these thoughts, behaviors, patterns, and people. Nothing about this is easy!
But there is something you can do to bring ease to the transition...
Journal towards freedom
Journaling is one of the best things to help you learn how to let go. Not letting thoughts swirl in your head, asking everyone you know for advice, or avoiding the situation. Simply opening up your journal to a blank page can help you take steps towards letting go.
Journaling forces you to put your rambling thoughts, feelings, emotions into a “container” so that you can better understand things more clearly. It helps you to make important connections between thoughts, feelings, and behaviors, process difficult emotions, and to know yourself more fully.
In my own life when faced with needing to release, journaling helps me to find new solutions to challenges I’m facing, identify and let go of things I can’t control, and change my perspective on the things I want to change but just can’t. And best of all — it always improves my mood and reduces stress, which is so important when trying to figure out how to let go.
Journal prompts to help you learn how to let go
If you’re feeling weighed down and looking for some relief, spend some time digging deeper into what you need to let go of. Below you will find a powerful set of journal prompts to help you learn how to let go.
The number of questions might seem intimidating, but know that I went through the process myself in 15-minutes (and it helped me to get SO much clarity)! Let it be simple, don’t overthink it, and allow your intuition to guide you:
Just like the leaves fall off the trees each fall, what in my life needs to be released so that it falls off of me? (Think relationships, beliefs, patterns, thoughts, commitments, activities.)
Which of these things do I most want to let go of?
What keeps me hanging on to this?
What will I gain by letting go?
How will letting go help me grow as a person?
What am I afraid will happen if I let go?
What lessons have I learned from this?
How would my life be different if I let go of this?
Can I let go of this on my own or do I need a little help in doing so?
What and who do I need to get support from?
How do I want to live my life from this point forward?
Slow, steady steps
Letting go is rarely pain-free or quick. Lean into what you’re experiencing and be willing to take a closer look at things. Let the pen and paper help you learn how to let go. Allow the answers you find within to help you fully release whatever it is that’s holding you back. Keep breathing and taking slow, steady steps towards the woman you most want to be.
Because the truth is, you are meant for big, beautiful things. You are meant to wake up in the morning and feel connected, excited, and loved. You are meant to feel alive and like you have a purpose. But you have to learn how to let go in order to welcome that into your life.