I'm Done with New Year's Resolutions

Happy New Year, Dear Adventuress!

I've been extra quiet these past few weeks, enjoying the beautiful “in between the years time.” My days were filled with connecting with loved ones, intentional rest, deep reflection, and playing in the snow. 

As I write to you today, I feel clear, calm, and connected. But to be honest, this hasn’t always been the case.

In year’s past, this used to be the time of year where I focused on what was wrong, thought a lot about what I was going to “fix”, and attempted to completely overhaul my life. 

Lose weight… run a marathon… start meditating… be less stressed… travel to new places.

Every single year I felt the same way as I embarked on my new resolutions - happy and excited for a few days, miserable for the weeks and months to follow. 

My goals felt heavy, flat, and lifeless. Created from a place driven by a society that didn’t match my values. Set because it’s what I had been programmed to do my entire life. 

And worst of all, they were super overwhelming, rarely attainable, and often left me feeling like a total failure by Valentine’s Day, full of guilt and shame.

One cold, dreary January I decided ENOUGH! What I was doing clearly wasn’t working for me so I let the whole New Year’s resolutions thing go - no more putting unnecessary pressure or trying to remake myself every January. 

Instead, I made a commitment to make every minute, every day, and every moment count. I started to develop personal tools and practices that would support me as I move through daily life (bumps and all). I chose a path of empowerment over all else.

Today, on Monday, January 8th, I haven’t made a resolution or implemented anything new in my life. I have however used this week to celebrate all that's wonderful and right in my life, to appreciate all the amazing people in it, and to tend to my needs above all else.

What about you, how are you feeling about the New Year?

Maybe you’re feeling …

… weighed down by the thought of overhauling your life, or
… fiercely committed to making this year the best yet, or
… confusion and despair because you’re moving through a big transition in your life, or
… a mix of all of the above.

Whatever you’re feeling, I invite you to welcome it all. There’s no right or wrong way to feel. There’s no perfect way to move through the new year - just your uniquely personal way that works for you.

If setting New Year’s resolutions works for you, keep at it! But if it feels extra heavy, maybe 2017 is the year you experiment with something new? Or maybe it’s a mix of the old and new. 

No matter what path you choose for these first few weeks of January remember, Winter is a time of reflection, calmness, and simplicity. It's a time to find solace and deep rest. It's not a time to force work, make long to-do list, or put unnecessary pressure on yourself. 

Give yourself permission to get quiet, sift through all that you're feeling, and stay in the darkness. When spring comes, you'll emerge brighter, happier, and fuller for it (more on this in the weeks to come).

For now, I want to thank you for being part of the Quiet Adventures community. This past year has been an incredible one and we’re so grateful you’re here! 

If you joined us on a Quiet Adventures Retreat… if you participated in Quiet Strength… if you connected with us on Instagram… if you emailed me this year to introduce yourself … if you read the Quiet Adventures blog and sent a supportive comment... thank you from the bottom of my heart! Your presence and energy are so appreciated here.

And I hope you’ll continue to join me and the other women here in 2017. It’s going to be an amazing year full of connection, adventure, and inspired action! I can’t wait to share with you in the upcoming weeks what we have planned for the year ahead. 

Warm hugs and big love,